here's his story..(i'm just gonna talk about this lh..panjang ngaleh kmu baca krg =D)
his father died when he was kid, and her mother asked her to be 'soldier' during the funeral. there he stood like a soldier, feeling proud that everyone would see him in a good condition. deep down, he was crying..
then as he grew older, he had a friend who died after being hit by a car on his head. but again, it didn't bother him as he believed that 'men don't cry'..
but one day, his 19 year old son was killed in a car accident during christmas eve and that, he couldn't take it..
that had made him feel depressed and couldn't take care of himself..
one day, someone came to him and asked him what he could do to himself. feeling useless and worthless..he said nothing much..then that someone asked him if he love his wife, he said yes..asked if he cared bout his children and he answered yes.
that someone then said, 'you are then a loving husband and a caring father' and asked him to note that down on a small piece of paper..that struck him and slowly he realised that he was not that useless afterall..until now, he keeps doing it and keep it in a wallet making sure that he can do something afterall..
it was an emotional session..there are other stories actually..but this impact me the most..depression is due to life crisis and if you are too vulnerable, then you can be one of the sufferers..
but the moral of this story is..how big is the problem you are encountering, don't make yourself suffer alone and forgets the world. and most importantly, you need some motivations and support from someone to make you realise that you are not worthless..
how i wish i can be like him....and that someone..not only as a social worker insyaAllah but also as being myself..being able to reflect things in whatever condition i am having..stressed, lack confidence, scared..you name it..i need to learn it though..coz it's part of my course and it is part of me too
what will you do if this thing happens to you? 'men have no cry' thing..true emotions hidden..what if you express it all out, unsatisfaction, frustration, sadness..how do other people gonna take it..remember, feeling down can make you have no say or......'volcano eruption!!'..well depends on who you are talking to, if she's a professional, it wouldn't bother her a thing..otherwise..
need your views guys...actually it's for my reflective essay..heheh
ok,assalamua'laikum
